A.I. is Everywhere---But Do We Want It in Our Dating Apps?

A.I. is everywhere nowadays. You couldn't ignore it if you tried! But do you really want it inside your dating app? If so, what do you want it to do? How do you want it to help? And is it even really helping?

We all might fantasize about a future where A.I. not only finds you a date that you're absolutely in love with but also communicates on your behalf, makes you look great, and even schedules a date for next Tuesday! But is that really the best approach? We have some concerns, ideas, and tips on how to make the most of A.I. in your dating life.

Do We Want A.I. in Our Personal Lives?

We start by exploring the idea of A.I. in our personal lives. Recently, it seems we use it everywhere---at work, to find new information, for research, rewriting emails, texts, and more. But how do we feel about using it when it comes to personal advice and interactions?

According to our surveys, approximately 70% of people would consider using A.I. in their dating life, but with certain reservations.

How Much A.I. is Too Much?

While we seem open to A.I., there's a limit. From the conversations we've had, many agree that A.I. could help with a clever icebreaker or a conversation starter. But (with the exception of a small subset), people don't want to date an A.I. Most of us crave genuine human connection---we're just looking for ways to make it easier and less stressful, using whatever tools we can.

What Should and Shouldn't A.I. Do?

When integrating A.I. into your dating life, the general consensus is to use it like you would a close friend or family member---someone to bounce ideas off or get advice. You wouldn't have a friend write every single message for you, validate every decision, or date the person on your behalf. So don't let A.I. do that either!

Eventually, you'll meet your match face-to-face or communicate in a way that A.I. can't assist with, and you'll need to be yourself. So why not be authentic from the start? If they're not interested in your lifestyle, communication style, or passions, maybe they're not the right match for you.

Here are a few areas where A.I. can be genuinely helpful:

Openers: Need a catchy pickup line, a funny icebreaker, or more info on a hobby they have? A.I. can help!
Advice: Wondering if it's a good idea to mention your frog collection on the first date? A.I. might provide useful insights backed by statistics.
Conversation Flow: If you're seeking validation that a conversation is going well, A.I. can offer opinions or advice on next steps.
Data: Need stats on first date locations or what generally makes for a successful date? A.I. is an excellent resource for calming nerves or giving you a sense of the dating landscape.
Proofing / Validation (Hookd Profile Analyzer - Coming Soon): A.I. can serve as a second set of eyes, checking over your profile, photos, or any risky messages you might regret later.

Conclusion

Using these ideas, A.I. can give you an edge in dating---offering feedback, enhancing your understanding of the dating world, and boosting your confidence. But while it's a fantastic tool, execution is key. As more apps, companies, and people integrate new technologies into everyday life, stay aware of how you can use them to your advantage. Be mindful of potential risks, and most importantly, remain authentic in your approach to dating.